Three things I never pray for

Recently, I wrote a blog about the ten tools to tread through tough times.  In the blog, one of the tools was faith.  Now, there are three things that I desperately need in my life yet I have learned not to ever pray for.  The ten tools, if you will recall, are: love, peace, joy, happiness, contentment, fulfillment, commonsense, intelligence, wisdom, and Faith.  Nine of these tools will automatically produce in your life the three things that I never pray for.

What are the three things?  Well, you know the first one.  It’s faith.  It is the last of the ten tools to tread through tough times.  The next one is hope.  The last thing is patience.  Through my experiences whenever I pray for these three things I am put in circumstances that call upon me to utilize and exercise these three things.

Thus, when I’m in a long line, I get anxious and need patience.  When I pray for hope and/or faith, it seems that I’m placed in demoralizing dilemmas.  I feel discouraged and defeated and I need hope to stay optimistic and faith that God is with me in order to keep me from making equally demoralizing decisions.  I have learned that I don’t need to pray for these things.  I only need to operate in the nine tools mentioned above and faith, hope, and patience will appear.


Ten Tools To Tread Through Tough Times

There are ten tools I believe are necessary in order to do life right and to do life well.  They are: Love, Joy, Peace, Happiness, Contentment, Fulfillment, Commonsense, Intelligence, Wisdom, and Faith.

Six are necessary for emotional health and stability during tough times:  Love, Joy, Peace, Happiness, Contentment, and a sense of Fulfillment.

Three are necessary in order to develop mental strategies to learn, master, apply towards, and maneuver around tough times:  Commonsense, Intelligence, and Wisdom.

One is necessary for spiritual strength, support, and discipline needed to operate in all of the above tools:  Faith.

When bad things happen to good people… and when bad people don’t suffer

This is just my personal opinion.  Based on His favor with certain people, His forgiving heart, His power and authority to choose what He chooses and neglect what He neglects I can understand how God can look out for people who seemingly don’t deserve it and seem to abandon people who appear to be good in spirit. Based off of His promises to the Old Testament players, God was good to the later generations of offspring until their wickedness had to be dealt with. Likely, when He didn’t have His hand on a nation, they and their children suffered whether it was because of their disobedience or them not being guarded by His spirit. This calls into account free choice and responsibility for our consequences here on earth. We still reap what we sow but if God makes a promise to a person, He keeps it even when it doesn’t seem fair to others and if He hadn’t made a covenant with us because we don’t represent who He is, then our offspring, even the good ones, may suffer. But, this is just my belief based off of Old Testament reading, my observations of worldly events, and my personal experiences.

Love is not enough.

Love means so many different things to different people. It can be watered down and filtered to the point where it only means one thing or the opposite of what you expect it to mean. Attention, Devotion, Trust, Friendship, Communication, Value, Respect, Passion, and Compassion could all fall under the category of love and they all matter in terms of relationships and coexistence. What other terms mean love for you in regards to relationships?

Is there a difference between racism, stereotyping and general offenses?

Racism is defined as a hatred for another because of skin color or race.  It is also defined as a belief of being superior to another race.  Sometimes I hear the word used in context that doesn’t fit this definition.  In some cases stereotyping, myths, or offenses would due just fine.  I hear the same thing in reference to the words sexism, anti-semitism, and homophobia.

If I said, “did you not eat your watermelon today?”  That would not necessarily be a racist statement especially if I’m not a racist.  It could be construed as a racist comment.  However, it may just be me speaking from ignorance about a culture.  Thus making it not a racist comment but a stereotype or an offensive comment from ignorance.

Now, if I said, “no black people are allowed in my house at no time, ever!”  That may be racist.  It may be based off of non-racist things, though, such as a stereotype that most people who are black are thieves.  This stereotype may influence someone’s actions but may not be meant as racist.  Now, someone who actually hates black people or believes that they are inferior, automatically makes this statement and the one before it racist.  It has a racist intent and heart behind it.

My personal resolve is to find out where a person’s heart is when they make comments that may sound racist, sexist, and the like.  Knowing a person’s level of ignorance about a culture and where they stand socially in regards to another race, gender, or a person’s lifestyle choice is key in determining if a statement is racist, stereotyping, or just an offensive remark.  What do you think?

I am thankful that my mom decided to keep me.

I know this is a personal and touchy issue.  My attitude is that women have a God given right to their bodies and the choices they make with them are their own.  I also am against the idea of abortion though the previous sentence still stands.

One thing I have resolved is to be thankful that my mom, though she was very young and probably scared of the new experience, decided to give birth to me and my siblings.  It helps me to appreciate more when a woman makes the choice to let her baby develop and live.  My hats off to you women who had the guts and the courage to put aside your feelings and give the baby a chance.